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Why doesn’t he want help changing some annoying behavior?

When you notice a certain behavior in somebody that’s annoying you in some way, you normally start moaning about it to yourself or others or you want to confront this person with what he or she is doing wrong.

You think: “She doens’t see what she is doing to others” “He doens’t see he’s causing this on himself and blaming others” or “Over and over again it’s getting so annoying.”

You think these thoughts because you believe you are right - you have convinced yourself you know better.

Do you? And when you confront a person with your opinion or “the Right way” do you see them thinking: you are right?

No and No. No you don’t know better because you are doing exactly the same. No, people don’t change. They have there own believes for which it makes the thoughts unconsciously seem right for themselves.

If they would see, you wouldn’t have to confront them. They would have confronted themselve when they got a realization “they shouldn’t do it like that.”

The problem for you is you got yourself attached to those thoughts otherwise you wouldn’t see somebody else doing it. You feel annoyed because their action confrontes you with your own thoughts.

When you are able to look at the same person that annoyed you before and fully accept him or her. you are able without effort to let them be because you have let go of these thoughts you were holding onto before.

When you accept you love. When you love a person doens’t mean you need to approve all of there actions.

What will happen is that your relationship with this person and other people will get  better and become more wonderful and fulfilling.

Thoughts are present wherever you are. It’s just a matter of whether you attach yourself or not to a certain thought by sticking a emotion on it for whatever reason.

Reverse this proces in your every day life. Everyday wonderful opportunities will come on your path to let go. By letting go of the thought-emotion you become aware, you consciously will see miracles happen in your life and your relationship with other people.

How do I overcome resistance?

The most important thing you need to have to overcome resistance is first having the “will” to do it. When there’s no absolute will there is no absolute power. You really need to want it.

Only you can do this for yourself. Why you need so much power? Because at this moment your subconscious thoughts, that you let run on autopilot causing the resistance, outnumber you big time.

Now you consciously want to take control and this is hard because it feels like you are shadow boxing and you don’t know where to punch and what to hit.

Remember only you can do that by focussing on this one desire. To overcome your personal resistance towards something or someone you get quiet and see what thoughts are popping up when you think about or picture yourself with what you want.

You mind is continually trying to connect all the “dots” together. When you want something and you feel resistance there are negatve thoughts stopping you. When you get quiet and think about what you want your mind start conecting this thought whit other thoughts straight away - positive thoughts but also a lot of negative. 

You start witnessing your thoughts, you see thoughts coming up that are so much “BS” that you realize the “BS” factor and you let go because you want to.

Don’t make it more difficult then it really is and start to let the resistance go.

Life is a moment in space - Barbra Streisand (woman in Love)
Don’t loose your mind in being yourself. Let the mind be and experience the Beingness or your Self.
You don’t need to think in order to be
Love is like your favourite sweater - It’s warm, it’s cosy and it’s there to serve
Most of the time we think “How to do things” instead of “What do I want
Question: “What causes your unhappiness?”

The only way to know this is not by giving you the anwer but by you letting yourself experience the realization. 

So first let go of a single thought. Over time when your able to do that you can let larger chunks of thought go by seeing “Why” you are thinking that thought, Everytime you realize “Why” you think a certain way you are able to let a big chunk of thoughts go. Now you’ll experience more ease and feel more relaxed all the time.

You feel more alive, more present, more loving, more happy, appreciating things, people and circumstances more, Keep on doing this untill you want to go even quicker because you realize this is your natural state.

When you reach that point ask yourself: “What am I?” and stick with it until you get a realization. With everything you do keep that thought in the background.

Know that it’s not you who thinks of a answer. It’s You, Self, Beingness, I, that realizes and sees that what you tried to cover over is what caused your unhappiness. 

Unhappiness is caused by the thoughts you created. You keep the thoughts alive by the emotions you gave the thoughts and stored them in your mind. Let go of the thought by letting go of the emotion attached to it. Do this and you let consciously your unhappiness go. 

When you let go of the negative emotion attached to a thought your life will become permanently a bit happier,